Sorry, for the delay.
Why do I think mothers should read Shelley Adina’s book, it’s all about us, with their daughters? Because if you have a teenaged daughter, she’s thinking about sex.
She is.
Unless she’s deaf, dumb, and blind, she knows what sex is and she’s thought quite a bit about it.
OK maybe not sex sex. Maybe she’s not going to be as much of a hottie hound as some girls are. Girls, even today, want to be loved more than they want to have sex. There is a difference, I know that. I also know that girls view sex differently today than when I was a kid. Now they can have experiences with other girls, and with boys–casual sex–and they see nothing wrong with it. Sex and love are two different things and while they want love, they don’t mind having sex on the side. Just for fun.
What I think, is that this book would be a great one to read with your daughter, so you can find out what she wants, what she likes, if she has any crushes. You could discuss with her how she should handle her crushes. Ask her if she thinks the kissing was good for Lissa. And what about Lissa getting a private room with the boy? Was that smart? Was that righteous?
Your daughter’s answers may surprise you. She’s growing up in a different world than you grew up in.
My daughter is constantly surprising me. I, who have always hated frills and anything girly, somehow ended up with a daughter who loves fashion and makeup and small dogs dressed in pink sweaters. Ugh!
And…she likes these kinds of stories. The girly sleepover stories. The dippy high school princesses who are shallow and silly.
Well, she’s a girl. And girls are silly. You may think your daughter’s not. But even the smartest and most steady of teen girls, in the quiet of her own mind, is silly. I’m sure of it.
Shelley Adina has opened up the foolish heart of the teen girl in it’s all about us. And it’s worth your time to read and consider the book, I think. I see way too many parents today who are fine with letting their girls go out on dates with boys. Well, read this book. Is this what you want for your little girl?
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tags: christian children's books, chritian teen novel, its all about us, sally apokedak, shelley adina, teen sexuality
Well worth waiting for, Sally. Great stuff. You’re so right about young girls, our culture, the fact that parents may not be aware of what their daughters are thinking. I can guarantee you my mom didn’t know what I was thinking. And I taught teens too long to believe the majority of them have a discuss-anything relationship with their moms.
Part of that is necessary, part of their growing up and establishing their individuality. But how nice if healthy discussion was part of that process. It’s a pretty safe assumption that they’re talking to their friends if they aren’t talking to their moms.
Becky
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